Anti-Valentines – Top 20 songs for the dumped

Glass heartValentine’s Day.  Unless you’re in the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship it can be a fairly rough trot.  Are you fed up with the chocolates and roses crowd and their sickening kissy-faces?  Why wouldn’t you be?

It’s especially hard if you’ve just had your heart drop-kicked for goal by a callous cad or stroppy siren.  There are books that can help you through the rough times and I’ve mentioned those in Valentines posts past but when it comes to heartbreak nothing is more succinct, more visceral, more pointedly true than the lyrics of popular songs.

Yes, you’ll find it hard to listen to the lovey-lovey stuff and don’t even go near “your song” for at least a year but songs are great for a bit of wallowing or even better a bit of “you suck and I don’t even care that you’re going out with my best friend now” catharsis.  The following list has been cribbed from “On & off songs for the dumped” from The Advertiser but I’ve padded it with a few suggestions of my own to make it a nice round twenty.

  1. End of the road – Boyz II Men
  2. Ain’t no sunshine – Bill Withers
  3. Just don’t know what to do with myself – Dusty Springfield/The White Stripes
  4. Tainted love – Soft Cell
  5. Good riddance (Time of your life) – Green Day
  6. I will survive – Gloria Gaynor
  7. Everything about you – Ugly Kid Joe
  8. Hit the road Jack – Ray Charles
  9. Song for the dumped – Ben Folds Five
  10. You oughta know – Alanis Morissette
  11. You keep me hangin’ on – Diana Ross & the Supremes/Kim Wilde
  12. Irreplaceable – Beyoncé
  13. Crazy – Patsy Cline
  14. I hope I never – Split Enz
  15. Please don’t leave me – Pink
  16. Gives you hell – All American Rejects
  17. Since u been gone – Kelly Clarkson
  18. Crying – Roy Orbison
  19. Love is a battlefield – Pat Benatar
  20. Since I don’t have you – Skyliners/Guns n Roses

So what do you think of this list?  Anyone got suggestions of their own for a lovelorn playlist for one?

7 thoughts on “Anti-Valentines – Top 20 songs for the dumped

  1. Donna 12 February 2010 / 3:26 pm

    Sleepin’ single in a double bed – Yeah country and western does it best every time, and it sounds like our own Suzanne Prentice does a version.

    and for a little understated, not at all melodramatic, break up song what about The end of the world. Herman’s Hermits does the version I know:
    “Why does the sun go on shining
    Why does the sea rush to shore
    Don’t they know it’s the end of the world
    ‘Cause you don’t love me any more”

  2. Donna 12 February 2010 / 3:28 pm

    And you’ve just made me reserve cds by Suzanne Prentice and Herman’s Hermits now!

  3. Helen 13 February 2010 / 9:44 pm

    Just wondering if there are any songs about being the dumper? That can be just as traumatic, but the sympathy always goes with the dumped. Why is that?

  4. JoycieScotland 15 February 2010 / 2:32 pm

    Will love tear us apart or bore us to death?Anti-love anthems are wee islands of sanctuary in a sugary pink sea of schmaltzy love songs. Purists claim there is a bold difference between the genuine anti-love song and your general all purpose “I’ve been dumped” ditty but vengeful, vitriolic tunes are all welcome in my anti-valentine club….
    There’s too much love by Belle and Sebastian
    UR the one by Mos Def
    Love is a losing game by Amy Winehouse
    Leeds United by Amanda Palmer

  5. Toni 18 February 2010 / 4:50 pm

    Marianne Faithfull – Why d’ya do it? – Broken English
    A powerful dumpee number.

  6. Sarkimh 22 February 2010 / 2:25 pm

    Whenever I think of regretful romantic wallowings I’m always reminded of Half Life sung by Duncan Sheik…Ironically it appears in the soundtrack of the movie What a Girl Wants! 😉

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